Hey lovebugs!

You ever have that person that makes you feel guilty for trying to do better? You know, those "friends" that call you Hollywood or Bougie because your doing a little better than you used to.

Yeah. Everybody has those type of people in their lives. They come in various forms: boss, teacher, lover, coworkers, friends, and family. The crazy thing is that nowadays strangers tend to support you more than people close to you.

WHY IS THAT?

Nothing grinds my gears more than someone making me feel bad about trying to do better. Except maybe counting my pockets. I really hate that lol. But... I digress.

Back to the topic at hand. Bro, who in THE HELL are you? Why does my success bother you? And y'all this can be with anybody. It can be that ex that you constantly beef with and you have no idea why? Something you are doing isn't what was expected. Maybe you bounced back stronger/faster that they thought. Maybe you proved that their existence isn't necessary. Maybe it's that home-girl that keeps hating on you and your man. Keeps throwing shade like its the 4th of July.

WHY CAN'T FOLKS JUST BE HAPPY FOR OTHER FOLKS?!?!? Questions that need answers...

They haven't seen the amount of tears that you've cried. They didn't stay up with you those sleepless nights. They didn't help piece your heart back together. They've never dealt with your pain. They can't begin to understand the magnitude of journey. So they definitely can't comprehend the magnitude of your happiness.

And to those people, I say: FUCK YOU, with the sweetest hint of southern charm. You can take two steps to the left and have several seats while I flash this smile and sashay right past you on this here road to success.

And that my friends, should be your attitude. No, it should be your mantra for 2017 and every year after. No one owes you anything. Your are not entitled to someone being happy for you. And as sad as it may be, that pertains to everyone. Even your BFF or family. They don't have to be happy for you. They just don't.

AND YOU DON'T HAVE TO CARE!

Once we realized that, less feelings will get hurt. I mean, you don't want someone around being dead weight as you climb this ladder to success. You want someone that is going to lighten your load. So just allow them to feel how they want and move around. No bad blood, just a difference in opinion. Let them talk. Let them hate.

THROWING SALT ON MY NAME IS JUST SEASONING MY SAUCE.

Ride for who rides for you. Support those that support you. Build a circle of encouragement, trust, passion, and loyalty.

Deuces to the rest, because at the end of the day their struggles are not your burdens.

XoXo,
Yannie