"Heard this her man too
My man is my man is your man
Heard that's her man
Tuesday and Wednesday, Thursday and Friday
I just keep him satisfied through the weekend
You're like 9 to 5, I'm the weekend
Make him lose his mind every weekend
You take Wednesday, Thursday
Then just send him my way
Think I got it covered for the weekend
We all know that part. I know I'm all into it every time it comes on Pandora. But let's take a look at the second verse...
I gotta say I'm in the mood for a little bit more of that
I mean I'm saying what kind of deal is two days?
I need me at least 'bout four of them
More of them, more of you on me
On us, just tell me you want me, yeah
Monday and I'll be at your door
Ready to take her place
Ready to give you
What you've been missin' on weekdays
What you've been waitin' for
10:30, no later than
Drop them drawers, I know what you want
Now I don't know many females who don't like this song, myself included. We live in a world that celebrates infidelity. We encourage "catching flights" instead of feelings. We are constantly told, "Treat these ni***s like they treat us. ALL MEN CHEAT ANYWAY." So expect to "go through" some things at the beginning, if you do get in a relationship.
I have heard that phrase so many times in the 5 years that I've been single, that I wanted to see if there was any truth to it. I also wanted to know, why do we as women think that way.
Why are we OK with not being OK in a relationship?
So I decided to ask my friends on Facebook, and I got some interesting answers. But I'll let you know my personal opinion on the subject first...
I (CLAP) AIN'T (CLAP) GOING!!! (DOUBLE CLAP)
You cheat on me once, I'm moving around...quickly!!! I'll go deeper into that later.
Back to facebook, I posed the question:
Ladies, how many of you believe that ALL men cheat? Explain your reasoning...
Men, feel free to chime in...
Now, I had already had this conversation with one of my best friends. She believes that all men do cheat. Men are easily tempted and sometimes they just fuck up. You shouldn't throw away something or give up on someone you truly love because of a fuck up.
So I asked her, "If "bae" cheats on you, you will stay?" She said she would if she loved him enough. Love is rare and you may never come across that again.
VALID POINT.
Facebook friend #1: Not all of them.. just 95%. I believe a cheater can change. When I was younger I was not faithful, so I'm not saying it's exclusively men. For me it took meeting my husband & learned how to really love. I had no idea when I was younger.. that being said... I have mostly had male friends my whole life.. and I work in a male dominant field.. I've seen way too much to ever trust a man that isn't my husband.. I suppose to be fair it should be a little smaller number.. but, not much smaller from what I've seen. Also, it's more common I think in military relationships because of the time and distance stuff..
sorry this isn't worded properly, just thinking about how many of my friends have been through it now and it makes me sad.
VALID POINT.
Facebook friend #2: My view on men cheating vs. women cheating 
. people change over time. Different wants and needs come along with growth. Unfortunately with this being said "what I needed and wanted" when I first met someone can change over time and be provided by another individual if in fact that person isn't willing to grow with me. It's all about perspective.
Morally cheating is terrible. Psychologically it doesn't seem that big of a deal to most people.
Or even look at it as an appetite. You get hungry and you eat. After you finish eating you are satisfied. Same way some people think about cheating.
. people change over time. Different wants and needs come along with growth. Unfortunately with this being said "what I needed and wanted" when I first met someone can change over time and be provided by another individual if in fact that person isn't willing to grow with me. It's all about perspective.Morally cheating is terrible. Psychologically it doesn't seem that big of a deal to most people.
Or even look at it as an appetite. You get hungry and you eat. After you finish eating you are satisfied. Same way some people think about cheating.
VALID POINT.
Facebook friend #3: Ladies ALL MEN CHEAT its the disrespect that comes with cheating that gets me,
VALID POINT.
Now these were just a few of the responses to the question, but they pretty much sum up the others.
So men cheat because:
1. They are more susceptible to it than women.
2. They evolve and want/need more than the partner is currently providing.
3. Cheating comes with being a man. Just don't be disrespectful.
Logically, the next question will be "Why do we get cheated on?"
BECAUSE WE LET IT.
Hear me out ladies...if you still don't see where I'm coming from at the end of my post, comment and let's talk about it.
So yeah, WE ALLOW THESE MEN TO CHEAT ON US. Earlier in this post, I stated if you cheat on me once I'm done. I know that may be harsh. Unrealistic even. But think about it, when you expect something, you are preparing yourself for it to happen. When we expect men to cheat, they cheat.
Why can't we flip it. We CAN expect them to be faithful. It can be a requirement to keep us. SIMPLE.
I wholeheartedly believe cheating is a choice. Temptation is just as strong with women as it is with men. Especially with this whole beard trend, or a fresh cut, or a nice suit, or being there emotionally when our men are not. (see what I just did there?)
So I get it fellas, you see a gorgeous woman. She smiles at you. Tells you how great you are. That you're just this amazing piece of a man. You start to think, "If bae didn't stress me so much about always being with my boys. If she understood me. If we had more sex. We would be good. But since she not, I'm gone find some comfort for now." or "She fine as hell. I'm just gone hit once and leave it alone. Bae got my heart tho."
Sidebar: I was purposefully trying to sound a little "cultural" lol. So don't come for me grammar police.
Now, both of these men made a decision to pursue another woman. The first one just tried to justify it. They CHOSE to put themselves in a situation "where only bad things can happen." (Don't be Kevin Hart guys..)
Let's change the scenario a little bit. You're man has his dream job. He worked his ass off to get to that position. He makes bank. He loves his career. He does his job to the best of his ability. Makes sound decisons, and always has the companies best interest at heart. He knows that his boss will let him go with any major fuck up, because the well being of the company directly correlates with his actions.
Ladies, we have to come from a place where WE KNOW that we are every man's dream. You have to work your ass off to get me, and I'll make everything you have greater. You will be emotionally, physically, and mentally rich because you earned it. You always have my best interest at heart. You know that I am my best when WE are good. So I match your effort on my worst day and exceed it on my best. And you do all of this because you understand that I am what you were dreaming of. What you prayed for. And if you lose appreciation for me, I will wake you the F**K up!
(Sidebar: Now ladies, you can't be out here being trifling and have these kind of expectations. This post is not for you madam.)
Now, I know that my standards may seem a little high. I will never lower them though. I know what type of woman I can be for my man. I can cook better than your grandmother, take care of home like your mama, feed your spirit like Esther, take care of your mind better than a therapist, satisfy you like a character from a Zane novel, and let you watch ESPN/play 2K and Madden in silence.
And all I need from you...is to take care of home. Take care of my heart. Never be the reason why I'm questioning myself. Love me. Be faithful. Be my safe place. Be my KING.
And if there is ever a time that you need more, respect me enough to tell me. Most things are easily fixed.
So ladies, EXPECT these men to be MEN. Quit falling for the "She doesn't mean anything" "I love you tho" "You weren't doing XYZ" "I'm just a man..." type of ni***s, because you don't destroy things you truly love.
If you want me, CHOOSE to be the man that I need. ON EVERY LEVEL.
If we keep giving hall passes, we can't ask them why they came to class late.
What you allow is what will continue...
XoXo,
Yannie